LESSONS IN LOVING...Things a girl should know Current mood: *. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. *. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. *. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave him alone. *. Allow your intuition to save you from heartache. *. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. *. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. *. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. *. Have faith in God regarding your relationship, but don't let faith make you stupid. God does things decent and in order. *. Don't settle. *. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things arenot better. *. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. *. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you. *. Always put yourself and your happiness first. *. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. *. Like from the show Sex and the City, if he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested. *. Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along *. Don't fall for the "I'm confused role". Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure things out (but don't wait for him, move on). *. If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom). *. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. *. Actions speak louder than words. *. Never let a man define who you are. *. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. *. Just because he says he loves you, doesn't mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't mean that you are meant to be with him. *. Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of the ..1 person in your life. *. Love is a verb. *. Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying to make someone unavailable-available, someone ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-loving. *. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. *. If you don't love yourself ... you can't love anyone else. *. You need time to heal between relationships... there is nothing cute about baggage, deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. *. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals, look for someone complimentary! Not supplementary.. *. NEVER give more in a relationship than you are getting out of it. *. When actions and words conflict, believe the actions. Respond to the actions. *. Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving type" ... when a man loves you there is nothing in this world (within reason) that he wouldn't do for you. *. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted. *. When it's time to let go; let go. *. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. *. Never believe a man that tells you he want to be with you, while he's with someone else. If he wanted to be with you, he would make it happen more sooner than later. *. Don't be a man's door mat, make him open the door for you, because a real man would do this on his own. *. There is someone out there worthy to be in your life, let out the trash so he can come in
