Ever since
I laid eyes on you,
I knew for a fact
This was a dream come true.
Everything my heart desires,
In one single go,
Fell into my lap,
Made my love grow.
I know now
My life is complete.
No more struggles
Or battles to compete.
Now I see
My future at last.
Up the life ladder we go,
Together it's a blast.
You showed me
The true meaning of love,
My guardian angel,
Sent from above.
The heart is an organ
We cannot live without,
But I give you my heart,
In trust, without a doubt.
For years to come
We will become stronger
Together, hand in hand
And forever longer.
I love you
With all my heart and soul.
You met me broken
And made me whole.
If the person you love or live with does these things, it’s time to get help:
Always be conscious of your own safety needs in all interactions involving an abusive person. Do not meet privately with a violence-prone individual. If you must do so, be sure someone is available close by in case you need help.
Some domestic violence is life threatening. All domestic violence is dangerous, but some abusers are more likely to kill than others and some are more likely to kill at specific times. The likelihood of homicide is greater when the following factors are present:
Most of us recognize that men experience verbal and emotional abuse at the hands of women, less well accepted or admitted is the fact of physical abuse. In our society, we think of women as the victims and men as the aggressors in physical abuse. The fact that women are more likely to be severely injured in domestic violence adds to the problem of recognizing male abuse. Nevertheless, it happens - frequently. In fact, men are just as likely to be seriously injured when a woman becomes violent because women are more likely to use weapons in the course of an assault. If a male client indicates that his girlfriend or partner assaulted him, believe him. A man will find it harder to discuss his pain with you than will a woman, and even harder to admit to being a victim. It is easier to attribute an injury to a sports mishap or workplace accident than to admit to a doctor or police officer it resulted from domestic violence.
Abused men are as likely as their female counterparts are to have low self-esteem. People can come to believe that they are somehow responsible for what happened. People cling to the hope that things will get better: that the woman he "loves" will quit when their relationship is better adjusted, or the children get older and show more responsibility. These are all pretty much the same excuses women make for remaining with men who batter them.
Characteristics of Abusive Men
ControlControl is the "overarching behavioural characteristic" of abusive men, achieved with criticism, verbal abuse, financial control, isolation, cruelty, etc. (see Power & Control Wheel). The need to control may deepen over time or escalate if a woman seeks independence (e.g. going to school).
EntitlementEntitlement is the "overarching attitudinal characteristic" of abusive men, a belief in having special rights without responsibilities, justifying unreasonable expectations (e.g., family life must centre on his needs). He will feel the wronged party when his needs are not met and may justify violence as self-defence.
Selfishness & Self-centrednessAn expectation of being the centre of attention, having his needs anticipated. May not support or listen to others.
SuperiorityContempt for woman as stupid, unworthy, a sex object or as a house keeper.
PossessivenessSeeing a woman and his children a