1. are they worth the time and effort to get to know ?
2. are you willing to overlook your needs to tend to thiers ?
3. if you made a mistake are you willing to admit it and come forward and make amends even though you feel you will lose the other ?
4. if they make a mistake are you willing to treat it as a broken pane of glass and help them replace it even though there is a chance of of getting cut ?
5. are you willing to accept the concequences and pain to be honest even though it could cost you everything instead of lying ?