Anal sex…you either love it or hate it. If you’re a woman and you hate it, you’ve probably never experienced an anal orgasm. You’ve probably never had a man who knew how to relax you enough to “receive” his cock without pain.
If you’re a man and you love giving anal sex but find that most women won’t go there, perhaps you can benefit from reading a few tips on how to get more women to give you the “back door.”
First of all, an anal orgasm is THE BEST orgasm there is!!! It might be harder to achieve, but it is the MOST satisfying and long lasting orgasm reported by women who have experienced it. I can’t really say why this is except that perhaps the “g” spot is more easily accessible from the rectum than it might be from the vagina, depending on the size of the penis of course. In general, smaller penises have more success giving mind blowing anal orgasms than they do vaginally, for obvious reasons. Since the “g” spot can sometimes be too deep inside the vagina for an average cock to reach effectively, it seems that from the slightly different angle provided by anal penetration, success can be more attainable, and certainly more explosive than the results from vaginal penetration.
Here are a few pointers for men who want to teach a woman the pleasures of good anal orgasms:
One of the easiest positions for a woman to relax her butt muscle is on her stomach. Have lots of lube on hand (or on finger as the case might be) and stimulate her anus slowly and methodically. Rub her pussy as well as her anus to help her relax. Licking, rimming, sucking, or sticking your tongue inside are all delicious ways to stimulate her to relax.
Pay close attention to the sounds she is making and watch how she moves. If you are hurting her, your chances of success are OVER. Be extremely gentle until told otherwise. If she is moaning or telling you “Yes,” chances are you are doing the right thing. If she is tipping her butt to the side, she might be uncomfortable.
Never stick your finger all the way in until you have felt her muscles relax. If you are attentive, you will be able to feel when this happens. She may even raise her butt, get on her knees, or tell you “MORE,” in which case, you might try to mount her and introduce the tip of your cock.
Let her back onto your cock as she feels relaxed. The one thing so many men do that ends this exercise faster than you can imagine, is trying to shove your whole cock home when the woman isn’t ready. THIS forever sticks in a woman’s mind and is usually what turns her off big time…PAIN. Excruciating pain!!!
Make sure you are well lubed. The anus cavity does NOT produce natural lubrication like the vagina does so it is important that you either spit onto your cock or have a good supply of lube at the ready. Being rubbed raw will happen quickly if you are not prepared (to the cock as well as to the woman). This will cause her to end the session sooner because she is feeling discomfort.
Once she has backed all the way onto your cock, let her do the in and out movement. Try to maintain a good firm position, not forcing yourself into her, but not backing away either. This is important to gain her trust. REMEMBER, most women have probably had a bad experience with anal sex before you. YOU want to make the difference and help her to trust that this does not have to be painful and in fact, be a very gratifying and pleasurable experience indeed.
After you are sure she is totally relaxed and beginning to move with more confidence, then you can grab her butt and move with her. Usually, her legs will widen allowing you full access. This is a good sign showing that she is eager for powerful thrusts. You may even move your knees between her knees getting as close as you can, allowing you to thrust your hips upwards, downwards exploring which turns her on most. KEEP lube available and don’t forget!!!
The anal cavity has a different feel. There are no lumps and bumps of tissue that are present in the pussy. It’s just like a tube. In most cases, there is little or no fecal matter present although some “browning” may occur during orgasm. This is due to her relaxing so much during orgasm that a tiny amount of feces might be released from deeper inside her. This can be an unpleasant and embarrassing phenomenon so be sensitive and be sure to have a wet wash cloth at hand to clean her up.
Reach down and rub her clit while you’re pounding her ass. This is delightful for the woman. Pull out and lick and suck the juices dripping from her pussy then carefully enter her ass again. This is VERY stimulating and exciting for her. Spank her a couple of times and feel her muscles contract around your throbbing cock. Lean forward and hold her breasts, tweaking her nipples, lick her back, nibble her neck. All these things are excellent ways to get her to reach an incredible crescendo.
As mentioned before, please have a wet wash cloth ready to clean your woman when you are all finished. Don’t be crass enough to make her do it. If you want anal sex and are sensitive to how a woman feels about “giving” it to you, she will feel good about the experience if you follow these steps.
Now go and enjoy !!!
