Do Women Play Intentional "Head Games"?
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***DATING QUESTION FROM A READER***
Hi, I just want to say that I've had tremendous
success and confidence with women after reading
your stuff... I feel like I understand them so
well. You really do know your sh**! I guess it
should of been obvious that teasing women and acting
cocky was the way to their heart, as you can see
it happening all over, but for some reason this
just never clicked in my brain, and I always had
this delusion that being the nicest, most
sensitive guy she's ever met would make her swoon.
Most of these dating tip books emphasize
conversation, and what to talk about with a
women.. while that doesn't really matter too much,
it's your attitude. Good ups, man.
Anyway, I have a question. Although I hardly ever
fail with women after being enlightened, when I'm
first meeting a girl and teasing her and being
cocky etc etc (you know the drill), they respond
well and seem to be interested in me. However,
when I ask for the number, lots (not necessarily
most, but a good number) of girls initially say
"Oh, my number's disconnected." or "I just moved,
and haven't gotten new phone number installed
yet." However, when I give a cocky response, or
even if i just say "yeah right", they IMMEDIATELY
concede and give me their number... and lo and
behold, it works. I'm just wondering why they
make up those lies if they're going to give in
INSTANTLY. I wouldn't think that this was too
important if it happened once or twice, but there
seems to be a trend here. What's going on?
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I'm really glad that you asked this particular
question because it's hard for a lot of guys to
believe that this kind of thing could be real (or
at least so common).
But, the fact is once you really get out there
and start meeting women, you start to see
patterns. And some of those patterns are quite
unexpected.
My translation of what you just asked is: "Why
do women play games when you ask for their
number?"
In response to your question, I'm going to give
you a two-pronged answer:
1) The psychology of what's going on here.
2) The technique: How I deal with this particular
situation, and others like it.
THE PSYCHOLOGY
Let me tell you a short story.
A few years ago, I did some work with a guy
that had a particularly interesting technique for
hiring people.
Here's what he did: After interviewing people
for the position, he'd call back the one he liked
BEST, and say:
"I wanted to call and thank you for applying for
this job, but I just don't think you're the right
person for the position"... and then he'd listen.
If the person said, "OK, well thank you" he'd
just hang up and call the next favorite one.
On the other hand, if they said, "Wait a
minute, I am the best person for the position, I'm
sure of it" etc. he'd say, "Well, tell me more.
Why do you think so?"
I actually listened to him do this live on the
speaker phone one day in his office with a woman
that he had interviewed. Sure enough, when he said
"Well, I just don't think you're the right
person..." she answered with "Why not? I am the
best..." etc.
And, sure enough, he hired her.
The point here is that in a hiring situation,
there are usually many people applying. An
interviewer needs to have ways of quickly
filtering through and disqualifying the
unacceptable candidates. And a SAVVY interviewer
will have ways of quickly finding the EXCEPTIONAL
candidates.
This was a great technique for doing just that.
I'm sure you can see where I'm going with this.
And if you really enjoy the "behind the scenes
psychology" of creating attraction, you should
also read THIS before you read any further:
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I can remember when I first started "walking
up" to women and trying to get their phone
numbers.
If I had a dollar for every woman that said:
"Why don't you give me yours, and I'll call you
instead"
or...
"I don't give out my number"
or...
"I'll give you my pager number"
or...
"I lost my phone and my number is disconnected
and the dog ate my homework and there was an
accident..."
I think you get the picture.
Well, one fateful day, probably out of
frustration, when a woman started to give me an
excuse, I just looked at her, pointed to the piece
of paper I had and said:
"Just write it down, it's going to be OK."
And, lo and behold, she wrote her number down.
I thought, "No way, it must have been an
accident."
So, I tried it again the next time I got
resistance.
Sure enough, it worked again.
As a matter of fact, it's worked so well, and
so many times, that it's my "standard line"
whenever I get resistance from a woman. Really.
You'll even find it written explicitly as part
of my "3 Minute Phone Number (and email)
Technique" in my book Double Your Dating.
THE TECHNIQUE
The long and the short of it is that ATTRACTIVE
WOMEN ARE APPROACHED ALL THE TIME. THEY NEED
QUICK, EASY WAYS TO FIGURE OUT IF YOU'RE EITHER
THE REAL DEAL OR A WUSS THAT GIVES UP AT THE FIRST
SIGN OF RESISTANCE.
Hint: Polite men that say, "Oh OK, sorry for
bothering you..." or "OK, here's my number, call
me..." are not SEXY or ATTRACTIVE.
On the other hand, men that say (Some of my
favorites):
"Oh, it's OK... you don't have a phone? That's
nothing to be embarrassed about" or "And you
expect me to believe that?" in a cocky, funny way
instantly telegraph the message: "I'm not a girly-
man that gives up easily, and I see through your
games. I don't buy it" are VERY ATTRACTIVE. It
just says all the right things.
So, here are a few things to remember:
1) Attractive women are approached all the time by
men, and are constantly being asked for their
number.
2) If you were a woman who is getting asked for
your phone number forty seven times a day, you'd
probably make excuses yourself.
3) The excuses and "Why don't you give me yours"
type responses weed out about 95% of the losers
that have no spine and no persistence.
4) If you're READY for this in advance, and you
KNOW what you're going to say and do when it
happens, AND you don't answer with a lame, needy,
wuss response, you increase your chances of
getting the number DRAMATICALLY.
5) Confident, cocky, funny responses are a great
way to power through these situations.
Of course, if you use my 3-Minute technique the
way I've presented it in a past newsletter and in
my book, you'll greatly reduce this type of
resistance in the first place and you'll know
exactly what to do if and when you run into
excuses and resistance.
Let's face it: Attractive women get a lot of
attention. They're not looking for a guy that
throws himself at her, and then gives up easily.
They're looking for a guy that has all kinds of
self confidence, and sees right through her
games... to the point where he disarms her and
walks away with the digits.
Think about it.
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I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.