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as found on: http://www.squirtingtruth.com/how_to_ejaculate.phtml SquirtingTruth: How To Ejaculate Before making any efforts to learn how to ejaculate please keep in mind that studies show not all women will be able to ejaculate. That is not to say that it cannot be learned but that it is possible that some women will not be able to, for whatever reason. For that reason ejaculation should not be considered the 'be all and end all' of sex for any woman. And it isn't. Many women who do not ejaculate have very satisfying and fulfilling sex lives. So why should you attempt this? 1. The g-spot stimulation needed for ejaculation may, in itself, cause a very satisfying type of orgasm. Whether you ejaculate or not, this intense orgasm is certainly worth the effort. 2. Developing your PC muscles, through Kegel exercises can also have enormous benefits, including helping non-orgasmic women achieve orgasm and intensifying the orgasms of already orgasmic women. 3. If you are attempting this with a partner there are numerous benefits, including but not limited to a better quality sex life and a stronger relationship, the direct result of the communication needed for this project. Now, assuming that you're prepared for the adventure that lays ahead, let's get started. But please don't take out bits and pieces, this information is important, otherwise it wouldn't be included. Limiting your education on this subject only increases your chances of failure which will in turn make further attempts that much more difficult. 1. Learn about your body You need to know where your g-spot is located and be familiar with the basics of female ejaculation, e.g. where the fluid comes from (not the vagina). If you need help with this please check our G-Spot / Female Prostate page. It has complete information including diagrams, to help you. 2. Practice Kegel Exercises Both women and men do kegel exercises to strengthen their PC muscles. Not only do they have many benefits such as increasing blood flow, they can help women achieve both orgasms and I believe, ejaculation. Please see our page on Kegel Exercises. 3. Communication Communication is the most important thing for any female wishing to learn how to ejaculate. Why? In order to ejaculate women need not just good but great sex and there is nothing that can ruin great sex more than a lover who does all the wrong things. Some women have very sensitive g-spots. Maybe direct or hard/fast manipulation is just too much for us. Perhaps the vibration of a vibrator is what we need. Maybe the feeling starts but then we need them to go faster and harder. Maybe your partner brings you close then wonders off and begins doing something else. Not only do we have to experiment to discover what works for us, we all need to convey this to our partners. Whether you ejaculate or not, the improved communication in your relationship will not only strengthen your relationship but open up a whole new world between you and your partner sexually. 4. Learning to Relax the Urethra Women are programmed to act properly, especially when it comes to 'bathroom manners' and plain and simply, ejaculation conflicts with that. For those who are battling the subconscious resistance of our bodies to close everything up tight when we're about to ejaculate, nothing is more important than re-teaching our minds. After all it is our minds that control our muscles. In the case of female ejaculation the part of our body that needs to be re-taught is the urethra. It allows urine to pass and just as with men, it allows ejaculation to occur. We've spent a lifetime teaching it to hold things in while we're in bed, now we have to teach it to let things out. So how do we do this? I would suggest that you begin by learning how to relax the urethra and urinate in places and in positions that you're not accustomed to. Here are some examples: - Standing - On your hands on knees - Laying on your back - Any position, while you're touching yourself - In front of your partner (if this is generally difficult for you) I would suggest the bathtub for most as it makes for a quick and easy clean up. As long as you learn how to relax your urethra at will, you have half the battle won. 5. Learning to Relax Your Body When a woman who does not regularly ejaculate comes close to ejaculation for the first time she may: a) tense up, arching her back and forcing her hips into the bed ultimately stopping it; or b) pull away stopping the sensation completely. This happens because of the intense feelings being brought on and because often the urge to 'pee' kicks in, causing a mental panic. You can learn to relax through this feeling and bring your body back under your control. Please see our Relaxation page for full information and instructions. Proceed to Technique: With A Partner Proceed to Technique: Masturbation as found on: http://www.squirtingtruth.com/how_to_partner.phtml SquirtingTruth: Technique: Female Ejaculation With A Partner Preparations For Your Partner: » Wash hands well. Trim fingernails. » Have a towel ready but don't insist on putting it under your partners butt immediately. If she's been struggling to learn to ejaculate this may only add to her performance anxiety. » Have some KY Jelly or other lubricant handy. At some point additional lubrication may be necessary, even if she is having heavy orgasms and climaxes. » Set aside enough time. The first successful ejaculation may take an hour or more. » It may be wise to exercise your hands, fingers, and arm for several days prior to this exercise. The motions necessary can become quite tiring after a while if you are not in good physical shape. » Reassure your partner that there is nothing to be embarrassed about or ashamed of. Women fear men's reactions to ejaculation so maybe even telling her how much it would turn you on would be a good idea and would help put her mind at ease. Start slow. Use typical foreplay. Stimulate the clitoris. Once you are sexually aroused, look for an area about 2 inches inside the vagina, which should be somewhat enlarged. This is the G spot. It lies directly along the urethra, and is located almost directly behind the clitoris. Slowly stroke this area. It should start becoming more enlarged. Ejaculation is almost always triggered by stimulating the G spot. Clitoral stimulation can often assist in helping her reach an ejaculation, and also can make it more intense. But stimulating the G spot is usually necessary at least initially. Once she starts ejaculating easily, she may find that clitoral stimulation alone is sufficient. Stroking can be done a number of ways. The two fingers can rub the area as a unit, or they can take opposite strides, similar to walking. A third method involved sliding the two finders out a fraction of an inch, and pushing them back in, similar to the in-out motion of intercourse, but with smaller strokes. Initially pace the stimulation somewhat slow. Alternate with clitoral stimulation either with the thumb, other hand, or mouth/tongue. Also try simultaneous stimulation of the clitoris and G spot. Watch her reactions. Simultaneous may be too intense for some but necessary for ejaculation for others. Take your cues from her. When she starts bearing down, and you feel the vagina contract, begin pumping rapidly. When she is in the middle of an orgasm, stimulate the clitoris at the same time, and pump the G spot gently, but very rapidly. Talk to her. Say, "your getting it, go for it, don't worry, relax and let it come" or other similar words. She may need reassurance that if she drenches you, you will not be upset. Tell her how erotic you find it for her to ejaculate. Make her comfortable with both you, and the idea of ejaculation. This actually is not the best position. If she does not succeed after a short time, have her roll over on her stomach, and get up on her knees. You will find stimulating the G spot much easier in this position, and she will most likely respond much better. With the two fingers turned down, slide your two fingers back into her vagina. Find the G spot and continue stimulating the G spot. You may use the other hand to stimulate the clitoris. If after a couple of orgasms, using rapid pumping on the G spot during orgasm, she still has not ejaculated, then turn the hand around, putting the thumb into the vagina. The thumb will likely not reach the G spot, but don't worry, it should come up to meet the thumb during orgasm. Take the two fingers and lay them down on the clit. Allow the entire curve between the thumb and forefinger to lie along her from the vagina to her clitoris, and begin pumping with the thumb, and rubbing the clit at the same time. When she starts an orgasm, start pumping the entire hand rapidly. At this point she will most likely ejaculate. The trick is to massage the area where the urethra comes out, while stimulating the clitoris and G spot. This will help to override the feeling she is about to pee, and allow her to let it pass. If you're trying to make her ejaculate with your fingers, you should feel her clamp down as she gets close. Since the movement of the fluid through the urethra will initially feel exactly like when she starts to pee, this is very important. The reflex to stop peeing will immediately abort the ejaculation, so she needs to be told to relax, and allow the fluid to pass. In other words when she feels like she is about to pee, she should go ahead and pee. Only it really won't be pee, it will be an ejaculation, and within a couple of seconds it will be very obvious to her that this is something quite different. The natural instinct at this point is for her to raise her hips and hold it in. At this point put your hand on her pubic bone and gently ease her back down, reminding her to relax and let it happen. Be aware that the female is not only capable of multiple orgasms, but also multiple ejaculations. It is not unusual for her to have from 3 to 5 ejaculations before depleting her supply of cum. Once she has ejaculated one or more times, you can continue with intercourse. Entering from behind will stimulate the G-spot more easily than missionary style, and often additional ejaculations will occur during intercourse. Even if they don't, she will be highly excited, and very sensitive. The final result will most likely be the most intense and pleasurable sex she has ever had. Anal Stimulation and Female Ejaculation: One area often overlooked when it comes to female ejaculation is the anus. In truth this is a highly erotic area and will often contribute greatly to the orgasm leading to ejaculation or the ejaculation itself. It's important to note that some women enjoy anal manipulation and anal penetration and some don't. It depends on the female, their body and their taste. Some women are able to ejaculate just by anal stimulation. If this is something new or something you would like to experiment with it is important to use LOTS of lubrication and to be very slow and gentle. Begin by stimulating the outside of the anus with just one finger, rubbing small circles, or putting slight pressure. If the sensation is pleasurable you can slowly work towards inserting a well lubricated finger into the anus. It is vital that you are careful doing this in the beginning. Too rough, too dry or simply rushing into it can be painful. If it's done properly it is certainly something that will add to your sexual experience. If Manual Stimulation or Intercourse Don't Work: Depending on the sensitivity of the g-spot, the first ejaculation or even the first dozen, can be exhausting work for a man. In his 'how to' video Seymore Butts suggests that men work on arm exercises for a period beforehand because of how strenuous this can be. I thought this was rather cute and even comical until I discovered for myself that it was true. Why? It isn't the in / out action of the hand that causes the strain but the fingers bent / in / out motion for any length of time that does it. If you're both new to this, this may present a challenge and could even ruin the experience. It's very difficult for a woman to maintain her arousal or to ejaculate if her partner is in obvious physical pain and struggling to maintain his rhythm. So what can you do? If after attempting to ejaculation you find that it just isn't working, I would suggest buying a g-spot vibrator that your husband could use on you to either get you close or use once he's reached his breaking point. A g-spot vibrator is basically a normal vibrator with a curved end, designed specially to hit the g-spot. They come in all shapes and sizes and all price ranges. They can be purchased online or just a local sex shop. as found on: http://www.squirtingtruth.com/how_to_self.phtml SquirtingTruth: Technique: Masturbation Many women find it easier to practice and have greater success in their initial efforts to ejaculate without a partner present. The following steps should assist you in your efforts. Begin masturbating as you normally would. Stimulate the clitoris. Once you are sexually aroused, look for an area about 2 inches inside the vagina, which should be somewhat enlarged. This is the G spot. It lies directly along the urethra, and is located almost directly behind the clitoris. You should be able to tell this is the right spot by the sensations you get when you touch it. Slowly stroke this area. As you do it should start becoming more enlarged. If you find it more comfortable would prefer, a g-spot vibrator (preferably the gel type) can be a big help with this. If you have trouble finding this spot I would suggest positioning yourself so that you are sitting more upright rather than laying flat on your back. While ejaculation is almost always triggered by stimulating the G spot, clitoral stimulation can often assist and can make it more intense. But stimulating the G spot is usually necessary at least initially. Stroking can be done a number of ways. The two fingers can rub the area as a unit, or they can take opposite strides, similar to walking. A third method involved sliding the two finders out a fraction of an inch, and pushing them back in, similar to the in-out motion of intercourse, but with smaller strokes. Alternatively, you could also try using a vibrator on your clit while you use your fingers on your g-spot or the other way around. As you become more and more aroused you will notice that your "need" for g-spot manipulation increases as do the strong sensations that come with it. At this point because you will often need it harder or faster, a dildo or vibrator will be very handy. When you get close to ejaculation you may feel a need to "bear down" or to urinate. If you feel the need to bear down, do it. But try not to tense everything up when you do. If you tense up you will not ejaculate. If you feel the need to urinate you need to relax and simply allow it to happen. You will not urinate. And if you pay close attention you will notice that this feeling does not come from your bladder. The feeling is caused by the fluid in your urethra. Regardless of which way you interpret the feelings, it's important to relax. If you tense up and raise your butt off the bed, make a conscious effort to relax and let your butt sink back into the bed. Relax your muscles and relax your urethra. You should then ejaculate freely. Anal Stimulation It's important for women to be highly aroused when attempting to ejaculate and one area often overlooked when it comes to female ejaculation is the anus. In truth this is a highly erotic area and will often contribute greatly to the orgasm leading to ejaculation or the ejaculation itself. It's important to note that some women enjoy anal manipulation and anal penetration and some don't. It depends on your body and your taste. Some women are able to ejaculate just by anal stimulation alone. If this is something new or something you would like to experiment with it is important to use LOTS of lubrication and to be very slow and gentle. Begin by stimulating the outside of the anus with just one finger, rubbing small circles, or putting slight pressure. If the sensation is pleasurable you can slowly work towards inserting a well lubricated finger into the anus. It is vital that you are careful doing this in the beginning. Too rough, too dry or simply rushing into it can be painful. If it's done properly it is certainly something that will add to your sexual experience. Masturbation Tips For Females 1. If you are learning to ejaculate through masturbation, laying on your back in a normal position is not the easiest way to go about it. If you do need to lay on your back, bend your legs up towards your chest or even try a sitting type position so that you have better access to your g-spot. 2. Consider buying a g-spot vibrator. It will be much easer to get the right area's stimulated while allowing you the freedom to focus on other areas such as your clit or anus. 3. Don't be afraid to experiment. Faster, slower, harder, softer. Find the technique that works the best then you can teach your partner without all the trial and error.