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I avoid indecision & half-decisions based on half-truths
I use both halves of a reliable system to consistently make better decisions:
a cool head and a warm heart
I USE MY HEAD
by asking myself a practical question
&
I CONSULT MY HEART
by asking myself a private question
Then, after I listen to myself and others, I make a better decision and act on it
To use my head, I ask a practical question:
Am I meeting the Real Need, Informing Myself of Options, and Thinking It Through?
YES or NO?
Is it a mere want or a real need? What information do I need?
Have I created options?
If I did 'x' then what would happen. Then what?
To consult my heart, I ask a private question:
Does My Decision Show I Am Honest with Myself, Trust My Intuition, and Deserve Better?
YES or NO?
Am I telling myself the truth? Does this feel right? What would I decide if I was not afraid? What would I do if I deserved better?
If 'Yes' I Proceed ............ If 'No' I Rethink
What Is My Better Decision?
Hello friends, just finished this great book called "One minute for myself." I wanted to share a part of it for you all, see what you think OK? The part that I am sharing is the ending part called taking care of "we." There are three parts all together 1. Taking care of "me" taking care of "thee" (you) and taking care of "we" (us).
Taking care of we: A Summary.
It helps me have a better relationship with other people when I remember when:
# When we've taken good care of ourselves, we can share our Best Selves with each other.
# When we nurture ourselves, we can go on to better nurture one another
# More important than being loved is my being loving.
# We may have small conflicts now, but we avoid much larger and more serious conflicts later, when each of us takes better care of ourselves.
# Our commitment is not to run away from ourselves, but for each of us to take good care of ourselves and to take good care of one another.
# We can help ourselves and each other by asking, "Have You Hugged YOURSELF Today?
# We can have a wonderful relationship together, when I have one with me, and you have one with you <--- This last one is a comment in itself :-)
Thanks for reading, God bless. :-)
Five Languages of love definitions:
Words of Affirmation: You feel extra good when people compliment you or tell you you're doing something well. You also really feel loved when people encourage and believe in you, more so than a hug or pat on the back. You're greeaaaat!
Quality Time: You like one-on-one conversation and don't really care what you do as long you are enjoying the company of your friend/family/lover/coworker. This is when you feel the most affection from someone. Playing video games while talking to your girlfriend is not quality time.
Receiving Gifts: You feel extra special when someone gives you something. It shows they were thinking about you. You might have a crazy porcelain angel collection of angels people have given you or won't throw stuff away that were once gifts. Price doesn't matter-- you'd feel loved if given a glued macaroni art project.
Acts of Service: When people do stuff for you, you feel that they care for you. Maybe your dad always takes your car for its oil changes or that you especially enjoy when someone cooks for you. You feel love in those acts. Not to be confused with slavery.
Physical Touch: You feel loved or well-liked when people hug you or high-five you. You'd be considered a person that loves "touchy-feely" stuff-- but only good touch. Beware of bad touch.
