THE MISTAKE MEN MAKE
Now, a common mistake that men make is taking
something that a woman SAYS that she wants, and
doing it TOO MUCH, thinking that if "A little bit
is good, then more must be better".
For instance, a woman SAYS that she likes guys
who are "thoughtful". So you go out and buy her a
bunch of gifts, give her cute cards every time you
see her, and call her all the time to tell her
that you miss her.
What happens?
She leaves you for her jerk ex-boyfriend.
Huh?
This would be kind of like a woman saying, "My
favorite food is chocolate" and then you thinking
it would be good to feed her chocolate for every
meal just because it's her favorite... or adding
chocolate to every single dish you make for her
from now on... and forgetting that 97% of what
she eats still needs to be OTHER FOODS.
Let me land the plane for you.
Women don't MEAN what you THINK they mean when
they talk about what they want in a man.
And if you take the things women say too
literally, you're going to wind up shooting
yourself in the foot.
WHAT WOMEN REALLY MEAN...
So let me "decode" what women "really" mean
when they say common things.
Consider this your own personal "female
language translator". Refer to it often.
WHEN A WOMAN SAYS...
"I want a guy who is sensitive."
WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS IS...
"I want a guy who is busy doing his own thing in
life, who has goals and objectives... who has
passion for things. If we're out together, he
always keeps me on my toes, and I'm always
wondering what's going to happen next. He's
challenging, interesting, and funny. I would
really like it if he was also sensitive enough to
know when I need a hug, or to be held, or when I
want him to make love to me."
Does this make sense?
Again, she's not imagining a picture of a
boring, predictable, Wussy who is sharing his hurt
feelings because he's so "sensitive".
Big difference.
WHEN A WOMAN SAYS...
"I want a guy who is in touch with his
feelings."
WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS IS...
"I want a guy who is strong-willed, and who
doesn't get upset about petty things... a guy who
can deal with the fact that I freak out
emotionally sometimes... and who knows how to be
cool when things are tough. But I also want him
to be in touch with his feelings so that:
1) He doesn't repress his emotions and then
eventually kill 10 people in his workplace, and
2) When he's intimate with me, and he feels a
passionate rush... he'll grab me and make love to
me like a beast!"
What she's NOT doing is making a picture of a
meek, afraid guy who calls all the time to ask "Do
you like me? Because I sure like you".
WHEN A WOMAN SAYS:
"I want a guy who's a good communicator."
WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS IS...
"I want a guy who doesn't talk all the time,
because he knows how to let me know what's on his
mind without using words. I want the kind of guy
that can touch me in a certain way and I feel
tingles all over my body. And I want the kind of
guy that can say things in a way that I
understand... not crudely and man-like."
WHAT ABOUT "SEXY"?
You'll often hear women saying that they what a
"Sexy Man".
Now, I USED to think that they meant that they
wanted a PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE man when they said
this.
Sometimes this is exactly what they mean when
they use the term "sexy". But I've found that,
most of the time, women mean something TOTALLY
different when they use the term "sexy".
You see, a woman generally bases more of her
life around what she FEELS than a man does.
And the concept of "sexy" is usually used to
describe the way a man makes a woman FEEL than it
is used to describe how HE LOOKS.
Think about women's romance novels for a
moment. Women's romance novels account for about a
fifth of ALL BOOKS SOLD.
What do these books contain?
WORDS.
Words that DESCRIBE things.
Descriptions that make women FEEL things.
My point: If you want to learn how to be a
"sexy man", then the way you LOOK isn't the most
IMPORTANT thing.
I'll tell you something -
Learning the secrets of being a "sexy man" can
be a very rewarding experience.
A lot of guys out there, including me, know
EXACTLY what it's like to be either on a date
with, or in a relationship with a woman who has NO
INTENTION of being with you "physically".
In other words, she's just not feeling that
powerful "sexual" ATTRACTION for you.
And you don't know how to MAKE her feel it.
Well, let me tell you...
Just like all the other things that a woman
"says" that she wants in a man... that most men
don't ever "get", being SEXY is one of the BIG
ONES.
If you understand the secrets of being SEXY,
you will notice that women start to behave VERY
differently around you.
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