Sex plays an important role in relationships, no doubt about that. I accept what people say, that sex is not what’s MOST important, that love and friendship in a relationship is what actually matters but I would say that on the other hand sex is what actually makes the difference; what makes us talk about two people being a couple and not just two buddies who care deeply about each other. Imagine that you are with a man/woman that you love, you care about him/her, you want him/her to be next to you but there is no desire, it’s nice to talk with him/her, hug him/her but he/she doesn’t really attract you anymore. What happens next? And I’m not talking about when you are 80, but when you are 25, 30, 40, 50, and for as long as you can be sexually active for that matter…? You just pretend and try to do the do, you start looking around for someone else to excite you all over again, you just forget sex and you think of all the other good things that you share with that person? And if this is the case, is it fair for the other who probably still desires you? Rejection is not a good feeling, is it? When the woman you love comes up with a silly excuse each time you touch her or when the man you love is looking at you and you see no desire in his eyes while you put your sexy face on and try to seduce him, that mustn’t feel good, right? I’m not sure if this is something you can work on as to keep the flame alive! What I do know though is that there are couples who are together for years and they do want, not just love, but they want each other more and more. It’s probably a matter of chemistry? In any case, sex is what completes the relationship; it’s what makes the bond between two people stronger.
I don’t really believe those who say that “sex is not THAT important”. I feel that they simply try to cover their non existent sex life and that in the mean time they dive into their hidden, unspoken fantasies…They just pretend…And how difficult and sad that must be…
Maybe it’s a matter of choices and perhaps the passion comes with a price sometimes, if not always. On the other hand, don’t you also pay a price when you have to pretend?
