yes im married, or i thought i was. its more of a part time thing. ist only convient when she wants it to be. convient to the point that we havent lived together for a least 2 years. she lives with her best friend. and the only times i see or hear from her is when she wants somthing. the reasons she left is because im messy and i smoke.both of which im working on. the smoking thing she couldnt help me with but cleaning up i never got any help. iam more than willing to clean,but i was the only one doing it. im not saying that it was her job, but im say help me a little bit. maybe the question is am i the problem. did i fuck up somewhere. maybe i did.