Nice guys are like crocodiles who think they can expose themselves, open their mouths and the prey will just jump right in saying "EAT ME." Everyone is quick to tear the nice guy apart but no one wants to help them. They say, "Be a man. DON'T let her walk all over you. Quit the lost puppy act. Have a life outside of hers." Let's show these nice guys how to snag a meal.....
1. Try your best to break out of being shy more and more each day because being shy isn't gonna help you with the ladies in the long run. A lot of women think that it's cute when a guy is shy but for the most part we will see you as more of a friend then a potential boyfriend. A lot of guys think that being shy is a pheromone that'll attract MORE woman when the truth is that it is a repellant. A lot of us associate shyness as softness, indirectness and unassertiveness. Shyness is about fear and fear is the worst thing that a man can have when dealing with women. We can smell fear coming off men like it's bad body odor. When you speak, do it with confidence. If you're going to let anything come out of your mouth then say it in such a way that she'll have no doubt about whether you believe what you are saying. Take risks! If you are at a party and you see a hot girl, DON'T just stare at her all night! GO TALK TO HER! When you make your move, give her a compliment that'll start a conversation not one that will end with a simple thank you. Don't say shit like you are pretty or beautiful or anything associated with what a dork would say. These are things she probaly hears all the time from all kinds of guys! Expect other guys in the room to suddenly grow balls. They're gonna use the fact that you've broken the ice with her as their cue to move in and steal your glory. Once you make your move don't fold under pressure. If she shoots you down, tell yourself "Oh well," shake it off and approach the next one. At least you had the balls to approach her first.
2. Men that are sucessful with women are often hated on and disliked. These haters are gonna try and ruin your reputation, spread rumors and basically rain on your parade. You can't let it get to you. Nice guys tend to stress about their images, whether they are liked or not and how people see them. In the end, what everybody thinks about you doesn't mean a thing! The best way to have a depressing life is to make gaining people's acceptance an important part of yours. Nice guys have a tendency to lock themselves in a box and stifle their own dating life by being pressed to maintain the friendships that they had with people in high school and college. They hang around the same people because they are afraid of losing them. This ultimately affects their dating life. There are two problems that arise when your circle of friends become such a major part of your life and you are the nice guy that's not courageous enough to venture outside of familiar territory. a) Though you may not care about what others think it's rare when the person that you are dating or intrested in doesn't care what people say too. b) It's hard to keep people out of your businss when you're always dating people that you know. Sometimes it's nice to break up with someone without having to recieve calls from all of THEIR friends wanting to know what happened and why you aren't together anymore. Futhermore, if you have mutual friends, the break up is going to be weird on everybody. Every once in a while you will meet a nice guy who has actually ventured out of the box for the sake of dating chicks not in his circle of friends. BUT somehow you guys fuck that up too! Nice guys have a bad habit of introducing women to their female friends and asking for their opinions on the woman in question. WHAT KIND OF BULL IS THAT? Why do you need your female friends to screen the girls you like? Don't you have the balls to make a decision on your own? Some women will say they don't like the girl because they are scared this new woman will take her place in your life. It's not cute to let your friends have so much control over you that they determine who you like, sleep with and date. Stop being a wimp. If your friends don't like her, OH WELL!
3. One thing I hate is when a guy goes out of his way to say he is a nice guy. It's not like you are gonna get a cookie for that. There are alot of arseholes that are running around telling us that they are nice guys as a front. So it raises suspicion with a lot of women anytime you say you are nice. If you are a gentleman, we will find out on our own. There's no need to tell the world about it.
4. Forget what the court system says about the presumption of innocence. In order to protect yourself from being fooled or taken advantage of by us women, the best thing to do is to assume this attitude. If she tells you anything positive assume the opposite is true. Eventually the truth will come out regardless and this will eliminate all surprises. If she says, "I am not a ho," assume she has skeletons in her closet until proven otherwise. If she says, "I want to meet a nice guy," assume she is just saying that until she proves it. If she says, "I am not a gold digger," play it safe by watching out for your money. If she says things that stroke your ego it is better to assume that she is just feeding you bullshit. This is a mental exercise. I am not telling you to treat all of us like hoes or be assholes to us BUT the worst thing that you can do is believe whatever someone tells you especially when you don't know anything about them. People are always lying about themselves to cover their butts and they will say whatever will make them look better. Nice guys get themselves into trouble because they are overly concerned with proving themselves and not concerned enough about making a woman do the same.
5. Just because you are in a rush to find love doesn't mean that you have to let us know that you are either with words or actions. Nobody should be in a hurry to give their heart away. It takes time to really know a person so why are you pressed to move so fast? There is a difference between knowing the signs that reveal the basic makeup of a woman and knowing whether you can tolerate her bad habits for the rest of your life. Calling her several times a day and asking if she wants to meet up with you are signs of desperation. The first time you talk to her, act like you aren't pressed to even hook up with her. You do not need to call and be like, "Let's schedule a date for us to hang out." Guys, that is pressed! She is going to be thinking you haven't been with a woman in a while. You have to play it cool. If she is giving you attention, don't do anything that screams I AM DESPERATE! You don't have to answer the phone every single time she calls! If you want to finish watching the game then do it!
6. Another thing that bothers me about nice guys is the fact that so many of them think that crying a river is going to make us fall in love with them. WE HATE A WHINING MAN! We do not want to hear about how your ex hurt you so badly that you will never love again. Telling us how your ex cheated on you will only make us wonder whether or not you are good in bed. We aren't going to think, "What's wrong with his ex?" We are going to think, "What's wrong with him?" If you have been hurt by a woman, please don't try to use it as a way to win a new one's heart. It rarely works and it only tells us that you are easy to screw over.
7. When you are dealing with a woman, the best thing to do is not reveal anything unless she asks you a question relating to it. Most of us like a man that's mysterious. Telling us everything about your soul isn't exactly gonna give us anything to wonder about. If you are going through tough times, then why are you gonna run your mouth about it? When you tell us things like, "I just lost my job recently," you are shooting yourself in the foot. Wait until we like you to tell us that. NOT 15 MINUTES AFTER YOU MEET US! Don't even tell us what kind of girl you are looking for. Your job is to make us prove that we are the kind of woman that you want to deal with.
8. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Nice guys have a tendency to focus on one woman at a time. They forget about every other female until things fall apart with whoever they are talking to. Stop worrying about whether it would be fair to the other 20 girls if you decide later that you want to be with one of them. Do you really think most of us women are out here worrying how you'd feel if we decide to settle down with a guy that we like more than you? Most of us think, "He'll get over it." You need to do the same! You don't need to tell us anything about the other women you talk to. It is none of our business what you do when you aren't with us....UNLESS WE ARE SERIOUSLY DATING! Have fun and stop wasting energy trying to be gracious to everyone by giving them information.
9. Nice guys have a tendency to want to make love when they are in bed with a woman. It's like they want us to view every sexual experience with him as a fairy tale. From time to time it is all right to put rose petals in our bath water and then slowly make love BUT sometimes we want to be screwed long and hard! Plain and simple. Yes, sometimes we want to make love but we also enjoy the hair-pulling, ass-smacking, pretzel-twisting kind of sex, too.Every sexual encounter does not have to be like something out of a romance novel.
10. Do not go out of your way to be Mr. Nice Guy to anyone you aren't sure about. You can be respectful and a gentleman without buying roses for a girl that only wants to sleep with you! Granted, you should open doors for any woman regardless but there is no reason to wine and dine a girl that doesn't want to do anything but have casual sex. Nice guys have a bad habit of turning on their charm when a woman might not even wanna do anything but have sex. It's almost like you actually believe that you will be able to turn your hoe into a housewife. Life isn't like that. You should treat a queen like a queen and a hoe like a hoe. By asking us the right questions, it is easy to find out if a woman is a hoe or not. Some will flat out tell you. Nice guys don't understand just how dangerous it is to wear your charm on your sleeve. Deep down you hope we will say, "AWWW....he's so nice!" But that is really just a dream. The women that REALLY want a nice guy will have no problem telling you straight off that they are sick of dating jackarses and they want a guy to be romantic. Nice guys, STOP assuming EVERY woman is dying for that kind of treatment because you aren't going to find a woman who is craving the royal treatment inside of all of us. You should play it safe until you are sure that a woman is going to appreciate whatever you do. Never use the nice guy treatment as a tactic to capture a woman's heart unless she has told you this is what she wants. A lot of women also have the tendency to change up the moment that a guy buys her flowers. So if you are trying to eliminate a female without saying, "I like you but I like someone else." Then buy a rose for the woman you are having reservations about. Watch how she reacts. If she appreciates the gesture and nothing changes between you, keep her around. But if she acts weird and things start to fall apart after the rose then get rid of her. Use this as a process of elimination rather than a means to get in good favor with who you are interested in. OTHERWISE, save the roses for after you have already established a commitment. Part of being true to yourself is knowing when it's safe to reveal all of yourself not all of us deserve to see the essence of your soul and spirit.
