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Interesting discussion with a group of my closest lady friends. The topic today was "what is your definition of the perfect man?". Every single woman answered the question differently. They each had one specific characteristic. They were a good heart, good looks, and loyality as their must have aspect of their perfect man. Interestingly enough only two said their perfect man must be able to make them laugh. Most of the characteristics they wanted were superficial ones. That being said it was a little bit of a let down knowing that most of these intelligent women were only looking for basic things.
Only my closest friend and I gave more complicated answers to the question. We both thought that while the basic characteristics were ok they weren't the most important. My answer caused a hush over the entire group. I said the perfect man is the one that is aware of his flaws, one that is self-aware, conscious of how he makes others feel, thinks before he speaks and one that isn't afraid to admit when he is wrong. One that talks through his problems and one that knows that if you treat a good woman right she will treat you even better. I have never been a superficial person and I have never sought out superficial characteristics in a friend or a man.
It's disheartening to see that 4 out of 6 women in my group refused to look beneath the surface and get to know the real person in which they were interested. This leads me to believe that even though some women say they want a good man they don't really know what a good man is and that how they preformed in bed and look more important than how they are treated by their significant others.
Most of them viewed sex as a means to an end. Something that should be done and done right if they are lucky. I was also the one out of the group that thought that sex was just sex. It's a way to relieve stress and frustration. Don't get me wrong I really enjoy the sexual aspect of a relationship. It's also a way to bring two people closer to each other. But persoanlly I believe that sex should be something that is between two people that care for and understand each other. There are ways to scratch an itch besides looking for the nearest willing man or woman. There is a perfectly good reason why batteries were invented.
It's amazing how so many women with differing views can come together and have discussions on varing topics. I've learned so much from these ladies and I have great respect for each of them even though I don't agree with some of their ideas.
What is your idea of the "perfect man" or "perfect woman"? What does sex mean to you? Im interested in hearing your thoughts on the subjects.
