Back in time people felt like a part of them was missing . they didn’t know what or who they just knew . so the term soul mate was created . so let me explain if you split a soul in two they don’t change one different then the other but more so like a two headed coin they are both going to be on one path no matter which makes the decision they are going to think a like be alike and want the same things at the same time . kind of like dating yourself . so if you don’t love yourself you can not say you love another just isn’t possible . most of us settle on people cause of man made views of things. like how a carcass looks in a broad view . we are more concerned with how others will react to who we mate up with . what will they all think this person looks like acts like and we get so rapped up in man made crap we settle and divorce and some just stay miserable . but the minority they wait for that true soul mate the one they don’t have to try to please , they just do the one that accepts your words as just being you they may not agree but they are proud you have a view of your own . this type of relationship takes no work as after all it is with your soul mate the other half of ones self . So the real question is the choice is yours you can search for that which completes you or that which competes’ with you . just sayn this is my view ...