Ok, so, I'm a judgemental asshole.
I admit it and I refuse to apologize for it.
Wait a second, hear me out.
I don't judge EVERYONE or EVERYTHING.
I judge stupidity and the people who continue to make the same stupid, painful, alienating mistakes over and over again.
Like me!
I judge and criticize myself relentlessly before anyone else. It's not like I think I'm better than everyone. God no. However, I TRY not to make the same mistakes over and over again. TRY is the key word. Most people don't even try. Would you continue to put your hand on a scalding hot stove if you knew you'd get second degree burns?
Uhh, no!
Yes, I get it, we're all human and humans make mistakes. Humans are also mammals and mammals are social creatures which means they're smarter by design. We learn from the people around us, by society, our friends and family.
STOP PUTTING YOUR HAND ON THE GOD DAMN HOT ASS STOVE!!
Look, I'm that friend that sticks by your side the first 20 times you fuck up. I'm lending money, clothes, buying food, bailing you out of jail...no judgement just support in any way, shape or form. However, when that 21st time rolls around, I have to ask myself "Is this person fucking stupid or do they just not care about themselves and the people helping them out?" I then realize this friendship is no longer healthy so I start shutting myself down to the other person. The friendship lense has been removed and now I see nothing but sharp edges, harsh colors and stupidity. No more kind words, no more favors, no more sugarcoating...nothing. We've been down this road so many times, I no longer need a map. You didn't care enough about me and my feelings so...you're on you're own, kid.
Am I wrong?