In a relationship it can be easy to forget love is not romance. It may include romance but the two are not the same thing. Some couples may find this to be a huge hardship in their relationship and wonder why they never seem to enjoy one another much anymore.
Well, one obvious reason for this is because most relationships, at one point or another, require you to work to keep the romance alive and if you sit still in "love" too long, the laziness in "love" can lead to some problems down the road.
Once you're in a relationship and love is expressed between you and your partner, it then becomes a passive knowledge, so to speak, and can be more a matter of telling rather than showing.
Saying something like, "Oh, honey, you know I love you," just doesn't cut it anymore. That's meeting the verbal standards, but not the required standards of action.
Of course there's absolutely nothing wrong with telling your wife you love her. But there comes a point in a relationship when action is just as important as verbal affection.
The two are best if married. Neither romance nor love stand well on there own, particularly because love without romance can lead to a relationship stagnation and romance without love can eventually lead one or both parties to realize that the relationship was based on something shallow like lust or an unrealistic fantasy.
So in the end, something or another dissolves without the collaboration of both romance and love in a relationship.
So the goal of turning your love into romance is to first realize that the act of loving your partner not only requires verbal affection but also action.
If at all times you remember to not only tell, but also show... that's the first step that will lead you to turning your love into romance.
The second step that can help you turn your love into romance is to challenge yourself.
Now, I think it's important to remain true to yourself and act on your romantic gestures in your own way, but there's also a point in which it's always a good idea to challenge yourself from time to time.
Be a little more brave about your love. After all, loving someone in general is about risks. The more you go out of your way to show your spouse how much you love her, the better off the relationship will be.
It's good to step out of your comfort zone every now and again and see what brave new things you can come up with.
Some dictionaries define romance as a continuous "love affair." To understand the terms of how to turn your romance into love it's a matter of recognizing that the courtship should continue on even after marriage.
Courtship is not only valuable when you're trying to get someone... it's just as valuable in trying to keep them.
