Why, when I try to be nice to people and do something to cheer them up, does it always backfire?
This is what happened when I took that friend out Saturday night. In one of our many conversations, it had come up that all he does is work & go home & drink - I don't care who you are - that isn't healthy. A couple of mutual friends were concerned about it. So, at first, when he asked if I wanted to hang out & watch movies, I had said ok. Then, the I got the idea of going to hear a friend DJ at a local club and asked him if he wanted to go. I figured it would be good for him to get out of the house.
Even though it was all innocent, he apparently got the wrong signal - and has been all clingy. I don't do clingy at all! Doesn't matter if it's a friendship or relationship - if it's clingy - it's out! He has gotten all of these ideas in his head that I am going to dump the guy I'm seeing now, for him. That's not happening.
I think part of the problem is that this guy is lonely - he's been separated from his wife almost 5 months, another part of it is that he is very insecure - worse than I am - and it causes him to latch onto anyone who show him any kind of attention.
I don't want to hurt this guy's feelings, but, at the same time I don't want him thinking that the friendship is going to evolve into something more. Guess we will have to wait and see what happens. *fingers crossed that is doesn't get messy*