So, let's talk about sex. OK, get that gleam outta your eye. Not in THAT way. :)
I hear a lot "but you are such a good girl, and yet you have those PICTURES!" And I gotta wonder -- how much of the Madonna/whore dichotomy is still going on in our society, that in 2006, I'm still getting these comments that imply you can't be a good girl and still like sex?
Two weeks, I actually had a guy work pretty hard to seduce me just 'cuz I've got this good girl thing going for me. Like, he thought I was going to be reluctant to be seduced because, let's face it -- my exterior looks kinda scream "librarian" or "schoolteacher." He was cute, he had the sexiest mind I've ever run across, he figured out my sexual proclivities after an hour of conversation, and he challenged me in ways I hadn't been challenged before. Of COURSE I was willing to be seduced.
I mean, let's face it -- I AM a good girl. I love animals and kids. I tell random strangers I like their clothes or hair or eyes. I enthusiastically wish the woman at the bakery a "great afternoon!" I listen to people's problems all the time, and I'm a nice person. OK, so I speed, um, a lot, and I swear at stupid drivers, and I'm impatient with self-important people and corporate red tape, but in general, I am the epitomy of Good Girl.
So, why, seriously, are people surprised that I like sex? I like to have sex. I like to have it often. I enjoy it. Do I have definite rules about my sex? Yes. I only have sex with people I respect and like, and you have to stir up my brain or you won't stir up my body (meaning, we have to be able to carry on a great conversation and hang out outside bed, because otherwise you'll bore me). And, of course, there's the emotional clarity needed about what it means and what it doesn't mean.
That said, I still like it. And I gotta wonder at a society that still thinks it's weird that good girls might not only like sex, but be open about liking it.
