Well, considering that I have to work at 1130am tomarrow/today...Im going to make this nice and simple.
Yes, I did have a problem saving my money and spending it wisely a few years ago. Or at least during the time, my ex was paying me child support and all of that extra money that he was sending me. Yes, I should have saved it up but that gives my ex no excuse for the money problems he has now with his new wife and the family he brought into his life.
Yes, it is great that he has a new family but I think that you need to find yourself financially capable first before bringing in a new family. Oh, and I at least did not have to give up my children to my parents for awhile so that I can save money up because I can not afford to take care of them and then risk my parents wanting to get custody of my kids...hmmmm, and this new wifey of my ex's claims that I have a problem with my finances...lol.
Okay, so I may be a little off the edge at times about all of this and it does seem that I have changed a whole lot. Yes, I may be a very different person these days but when someone calls me a "theif" I will like for them to come and say it to my face before they say that. TO MY EX: I will repeat this one last time, you pathetic magot, I DID NOT TAKE THE 1800 that was lost in the mail...if you would think that I would actually slump so low then go ahead and try me. Why and the hell do you think that I called you for in the first place? I called you because I was concerned since that money was in deed your money and it was to go to my lawyer. But you don't care though...you just want to listen to what other people are telling you once again. But I guess you will never change with that.
For those who do not know, the father of my children wants to get a restraining order against me and he does'nt even have the children...I am the custodial parent. Now any good father, in his right mind that really cares about his children, would not get a restraining order against the mother who actually has the kids on a daily basis because you would think that even though the kids do not like to talk on the phone with thier daddy, their daddy would want to at least like to hear their voices. Yes, we all agree that it hurts to hear your children tell you that they do not want to talk to you on the phone but what if these children are just this way for a few years or so? And why does it have to be soooo hard for the father to call when {inside} the children do really need their father and they want to talk to him just like anybody else on the phone. Sometimes, my two year old daughter will be this way with me on the phone but most of the time, I see my four year old son push the phone away...and well, this also happens to me when Im at work. I will call my parents house and try to talk to the kids and I get nothing from my son. So tell me, is there any difference at all here? I THINK NOT!!!!!
The point is that I already know that my ex is a good father but he seems to make bad decisions in his life though. Hence, before our divorce was actualy finallized, three/four months before he had neglected to tell us all that he had gotten his fiance now wifey, pregnant...and the funny thing is that she wasn't even complete with her divorce either. So, she ended up waiting to have the baby in December then it took a few months later for her to get her divorce complete and then probably a month or two later, she and my ex got married. Now, I know that they had been planning this marriage since like for a year or so, which is great...but I do remember that when I got my divorce I was told that I was not suppose to get married for like six months, so ummmm, what does that say about this folks?
Some people may think that I am mean to my ex and that I need to stop bothering him and let him live his own life with his new family. Heck, as much as I should care arout his new family, I could care less, actually...all I care about is my ex trying to have some kind of a connection with his two children that I get to enjoy everyday. I do not want him to stop calling. I do not want him to stop seeing the kids on web cam, but it has been awhile for that so I guess in time we shall see. And I will not ever allow him to give up his right to see the kids...what so ever. I had made plans awhile ago for him to see his kids...around father's day. Yes, it was like around mother's day that I had thought of it and yes, it was poor planning on my part. But big deal that it is....I guess the thought of me thinking that my kids should spend time with their father means nothing to my ex and to his family because all they worry about is how much its going to cost to just have a whole household...I know I am not bright about much things in life but I do know that a true father would enjoy every moment with their kids regardless. And it is unfortunate that I have to feel that my ex does not want to be a part of these kids lives at this point.
I don't look down on him though. I guess this is just for the best at this point. If a restraining order means sooo much to him now then I guess I will just sit here and wait for what is going to be offered to me.
