Okay, so here is what I know: My ex husband may have to file for bankruptcy. His wife CLAIMS that she may have to let her two boys stay with the grandparents that may challenge her again to another custody issue, since my ex and she can not handle their finances. Also, my ex is getting "bitched" by his command about how he should have been well prepared for a divorce, hence he should have gotten a lawyer too. Hmmmmm, I wonder where his lawyer money went to though...buttering up his wife to be and getting two vehicles that they have to pay an arm and a leg for, a brand new tahoe and truck.
Okay, so once again my ex and his wifey point fingers at me as they always have since I am getting more than half of my ex's pay..."It's all the ex wife's fault for putting me in my financial problems"....okay, so my ex was making good money being stationed in Italy, and while he was still there, the divorce was finalized...and that was how I got my support as it is now. MY lawyer had gone by his LES at the time of the divorce...and yes, we had both come to an agreement to such things. So why whine and cry about it now...the damage has already been done and you have already "Made your bed".
Yes, my ex is in a world of trouble now but I'm not laughing at him...I just say, oh well, maybe this will be for the best in this case. And, maybe he will get kicked out of the army for making irresponsible financial choices. He is suppose to get promoted E-6 too on June 1st so that is a good thing, I guess. All I know is that I am happy with what I have now. I think I made some better choices this time in my life when it comes thinking about my finances. I have a good job for once but it is not the best when it comes to pay and benefits...I love to work with the people though. I have a good place to live. And what can be better than anything, I have the two best people in my life, my son and my daughter.
Okay, but I do not sit here and laugh at my ex for not being able to see his kids. In fact, I often wonder what it would be like for him to see them again, without him and his wife judging my place as their mother. I often wonder what it would be like for my kids to enjoy their father just like my ex enjoys two children he did not father and plus his baby girl. Yes, my kids do have a little sister that they will never get to know if my ex plans to get a restraining order against me. On top of that, my ex will never get to speak to his kids again. Hmmmmm, I wonder if he likes this and is enjoying every bit of it because I know I am not. Just because his kids do not want to talk to him on the phone does not mean that they will be this way for the rest of their lives. Yes, this is going to hurt him but then "HE did it to himself" in all aspect.
Anyhow, everyone can whine and cry all they want and feel bad for my ex and his wife but they put themselves in this situation on their own.
