So its late and I have been laying in bed these past couple nights and its been hard for me to sleep.
I have so much going on that I can't seem to actually fall asleep and even when I do I wake up in the morning and I feel as if I really didn't get to rest.
Anyhow the point I am about to make has to do with something I just realized.
Ok so here it goes most people are going to take offense to this blog but who cares its the truth .
I love you . Those 3 little words which are supposed to mean so much are so completely over rated and highly missused.
See in order to tell someone you love them and truly mean it you really have to know the person . Yet some people say it and have no idea what it means and the consequences it comes with.
We have all been guilty at one point or another of the mis use of I love you since it can be easily confused with lust .
But seriously people how can you be sure you love someone at the end of the day when it all breaks down the majority of us have never experienced true love.
See for me it's been a crazy journey and everyday I realize that life throws one more thing I need to figure out my way.
I used to be such a hopeless romantic sap and things have changed to the point where unfortunately now I don't even want to say I love you to someone unless I am sure that I can live for the rest of my life unselfishly giving .
I think I am not ready for this just yet , I think that most of us have no clue how to love ourselves so we desperately seek out to love someone else thinking this will help complete us and make us feel happy but in the end realize that we still have not found happiness. Hence we end up hurting only ourselves and letting someone else down.
So whats the big deal with saying I love you and not meaning it If everyone does at some point or another ? well in reality the truth is there isn't too much of a problem for most of us since we learn that with time you can actually distinguish when someone truly loves you or not .But there are those unlucky few who have been so jaded in the past that trust no one and well saying I love you to them might just be their breaking point when they find out its not true.
For instance people say I love you to random strangers everyday and its crazy to me .
Like I was watching some shit on TV and these girls are all like OMG but I love him , Dude you don't know the guy you went on one date on a tv show you have known him for a total of 24hrs living in a house on a reality show and you all the sudden love him.
Listen broads be realistic here you love his bank account !! or his fame or some shit but you sure as hell don't love him in one day you met him. This amazes me people you can't love someone you have never kissed , someone you have never laid in bed with and slept next to, someone you have never seen have a bad day a bad week a bad month, someone you have never been stuck with in a bad situation someone you have never had sex with , someone you have never touched. It's not realistic people are normal and they aren't always what they seem.
A guy or girl might seem amazing to you everytime you see them they may be polished and polite but your not going home with them everyday your not experiencing their bad habits their good habits their tempers and attitudes and mood swings you don't know if they have issues with themselves because what you see is produced its all been edited on their best DATE behavior .
Spend a week with someone and you will see how slowly things start to change then spend a month and little by little it gets bigger and bigger if at the end of all this you have gotten over the burping and the farting and the nasty things humans do because of our nature as beasts and you still feel as if you love the person then GOOOD for you !!! YOU DID IT but for me I really need to know someone from now on to say this . I will never say it again unless I mean it because I never thought it would make a difference but it does to that one person it will make a difference .
I don't want to take it lightly anymore I don't want to say it because I am in lust.I want to say it when I am 80 and he is 82 and we hold each other tight and wait for death to come for us together because we can't live without each other.
You might be attracted to someone in one day you might have amazing chemistry you might lust that person or just plainly be a fanatic but you can't love someone in one day .
In order to know if you love someone for real , you have to be willing to open your heart and that person has to do the same for you .
You can know someone for years before you can actually say that has happened and you have been able to really realize what love is.
If you can go to sleep at night and wake up everyday and know in the depth of your soul that you would do anything for this person and that if they lost it all money, house, car ,health ,everything and you still want to be with them then you can say you love them or if you knew they were dying and they told you and you still chose to live by their side and take care of them till the day they breathe no more then you can say you love them until then don't use these words so lightly because there is nothing that hurts more than to hear these words said to you so many times or in such an easy manner that it no longer holds its precious value.
In the end the only way to know someone truly loves you is with actions and even then you wont know right away.
SOOoooooo point is Ladies and gentlemen Love is not to be taken lightly it takes someone a long time to really learn that they are in love with someone and until you are ready to spend the rest of your life with someone you shouldn't tell them you love them or you may just ruin a good thing.
Appreciate someone more by being honest and saving the I love you for when you are sure that way people will believe in love a little more
